Apr 18, 2024 Reporting from Niles, MI
Apr 18, 2024
Apr 18, 2024
Grief and Change
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Grief and Change
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The Same
Things grow quiet after the funeral.
The people, the noise, the cooking all disappear. Everyone goes back to normal.
But, you, you, can’t.
There is no more normal.
Nothing is the same now, nor will it ever be again.
You try to fit in with the chit-chat, but it takes every ounce of you to not scream. Not relating to others anymore is a part of grief.
Your whole world has been obliterated, so how on Earth are you expected to be the same?
~ Sharyn Marsh
Grief impacts each of our lives in different ways. For some of us we may be thinking where do I even start? Everything is different. For others we may be in a place where we can begin to see how we are changing and growing through our grief. A new ebb and flow to our daily routine is beginning to emerge.
In her book, Remembering with Love, Elizabeth Levang, shares grief can be intimidating and frightening. At first the pain of grief overwhelms us. We wonder if we will be able to survive, and we may have trouble sleeping, thinking clearly, and even functioning on a basic level. New grief seems to wrap itself around our being. We may fear we are being smothered, and yet we can feel so very alone. It is as if time has stopped; life is on hold.
As hard as it may be to imagine, grief changes as it continues on, taking a variety of new forms. In time, grief challenges us to survive, to keep loving and remembering in spite of the pain. Hopefully, we will find others to share our stories with, and to offer us support. This can help us endure.
When grief grows up, we will still feel some pain, but there is some joy present, too. We may feel proud of how we have coped and survived. We may notice ways we have changed and ways we have grown.
Grief is no easy journey. In fact, it is a very strenuous struggle that affects us deeply as we remember, love, and heal. From Remembering with Love by Elizabeth Levang, PhD and Sherokee Ilse, p 25
Here are a few suggestions as you think about your own grief journey. If you are looking for a place to start, you may consider using a grief care plan. Here is an article from whatsyourgrief.com - A Grief Care Plan: Your Foundation for Support - Whats your Grief that walks you through how to create a grief care plan and provides an example of one you can use at the end of the article. In addition, reach out to family and friends for support or consider joining a support group. Grief support is available to you through Lory’s Place, please feel free reach out at 269.983.2707.
Grief and Change
by
Trisha Pickett
|
Apr 18, 2024
The Same
Things grow quiet after the funeral.
The people, the noise, the cooking all disappear. Everyone goes back to normal.
But, you, you, can’t.
There is no more normal.
Nothing is the same now, nor will it ever be again.
You try to fit in with the chit-chat, but it takes every ounce of you to not scream. Not relating to others anymore is a part of grief.
Your whole world has been obliterated, so how on Earth are you expected to be the same?
~ Sharyn Marsh
Grief impacts each of our lives in different ways. For some of us we may be thinking where do I even start? Everything is different. For others we may be in a place where we can begin to see how we are changing and growing through our grief. A new ebb and flow to our daily routine is beginning to emerge.
In her book, Remembering with Love, Elizabeth Levang, shares grief can be intimidating and frightening. At first the pain of grief overwhelms us. We wonder if we will be able to survive, and we may have trouble sleeping, thinking clearly, and even functioning on a basic level. New grief seems to wrap itself around our being. We may fear we are being smothered, and yet we can feel so very alone. It is as if time has stopped; life is on hold.
As hard as it may be to imagine, grief changes as it continues on, taking a variety of new forms. In time, grief challenges us to survive, to keep loving and remembering in spite of the pain. Hopefully, we will find others to share our stories with, and to offer us support. This can help us endure.
When grief grows up, we will still feel some pain, but there is some joy present, too. We may feel proud of how we have coped and survived. We may notice ways we have changed and ways we have grown.
Grief is no easy journey. In fact, it is a very strenuous struggle that affects us deeply as we remember, love, and heal. From Remembering with Love by Elizabeth Levang, PhD and Sherokee Ilse, p 25
Here are a few suggestions as you think about your own grief journey. If you are looking for a place to start, you may consider using a grief care plan. Here is an article from whatsyourgrief.com - A Grief Care Plan: Your Foundation for Support - Whats your Grief that walks you through how to create a grief care plan and provides an example of one you can use at the end of the article. In addition, reach out to family and friends for support or consider joining a support group. Grief support is available to you through Lory’s Place, please feel free reach out at 269.983.2707.